In marriage and “couple’s business” you need to bring value to the place where you’ll house your marriage and entrepreneurial venture. You’ll need to arrive ready, willing and able help your spouse/partner, your business and customers get what they need. For, as the famous quote asserts, “You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want.” (Sig Siglar)
You want to be loved, to prosper, live fully and be at ease, right? So that’s a great place to start as we take a look at what you need to bring into your marriage and business partnership so you and your partner get those things.
Marriage and an intimate business relationship both require leaving the world you know and entering a new place. Like visiting a new country, where another language is spoken and different rules apply; creating the marriage or business will mean learning to honor new ways of behaving and communicating, so we’ve chosen to use the analogy of going to live in another country.
Below is what we think you need to bring and why. If you decide you want to live in this new way of love, prosperity, fulfillment and ease, our courses will teach you the how.
Bring your “passport”, your “baggage” and your “smart phone”. 🙂
Bring your “passport” but don’t mistake your real identity.
Like entering a new country, the passport allows you entry into the new relationship. It is your proof of who you are. In this case, it’s a credential that certifies you not only know who you are, but more importantly have learned to love yourself. It represents that you have learned self-soothing and self-responsibility, that you are able to give, rather than need to take. Most importantly, it says you have enough self-love to be able to perform the vital discipline of loving unconditionally. It will be this rare and beautiful attitude of putting the needs of another ahead of one’s own that will be at the heart of creating success as a marriage partner and business partner.
Having a current photo on the passport symbolizes you are aware of what you really look like and can navigate your inner landscape of thoughts, emotions and beliefs. The picture implies you are willing to own your human flaws and that you believe it’s your responsibility to work on them rather than blame your partner for your feelings and behaviors, or expect your partner to accept your illusions as their reality.
And of course, you’ll need your visa, which when stamped into your passport indicates you care enough about getting into the marriage and business relationship to have applied yourself, gone out of your way, agreed to certain rules and regulations, that your life inside this new world is really important to you and that you’ll give the relationship the time and energy it takes to make it work.
Bring your “baggage”, but clean it up.
The second thing you’ll need is your baggage, representing all the stuff that you carry with you in life. It will serve the relationship and business if, when granted entry, you immediately open your bags, clean what needs to be cleaned and put the rest of your stuff where it belongs. Why? Since we carry so much of our past experiences and cultural baggage we need to get it all out into the light and air, clean up what’s left of old habits, the ways you’ve always done it or the way your family of origin always did it, to make room for new ways of being in this new world.
Reframing, perhaps even changing out, old photos is also a way of avoiding negative effects on this marriage are carried over from old relationships or from all the harsh jokes and sad stories we’ve been told about the negative aspects of marriage and business partnerships.
What toiletries are in your baggage? Do you carry addictions you need to face up to and deal with so they don’t keep leading you astray? You’re entering a world that’s beyond being about just you, so pretend it’s Singapore and there’s a death penalty for all addictions; drugs, alcohol, porn, food, shopping, busyness and choose to remember the love, prosperity, fulfillment and ease you really want and have waited so long to have, is more important that the escapes and distractions you’ve used to hide your pain and fear.
Selfishness stinks in a marriage or business partnership so empty it down the toilet as well. In this world you’re part of a team and there is no “I” in team. The space between you and your mate, the relationship and the business is like a precious child, a rare and beautiful piece of art, and must be treated as valuable, given priority as such, but that’s only if you want a life of love, prosperity, fulfillment and ease.
Bring your “smart phone” for smart communication.
And finally you have to bring an even smarter phone than usual. This phone is mobile-ready so it works everywhere and is always on so you are available to communicate with your partner 24/7. It’s speed dial only has one setting, “I choose us”. It’s unusual in that the microphone and speakers are set to operate in a way that makes it easier to listen than to talk. And it’s got some great Apps; every text or call begins and ends with a smiley face to remind you you’re communicating with the person you love and like. There’s an automatic spouse-to-spouse translation App to help you learn the new language and work through the many miscommunication issues that will naturally arise in your new world. The final App is the Fighting Fair App and it’s name says it all. It’s called “would you rather be right, or be loved, prosperous, fulfilled and at ease”?
To explore this subject further in relation to your life, to deepen your spiritual understanding, improve self-acceptance and better relate to your partner, to deepen your love and family relationships, or to get business advise, request your free coaching session.
Also… Many couples are afraid to run a business together, for fear they’ll find themselves in in the midst of power struggles and arguments. See this video Olga has produced for you on How to Eliminate Conflict In Relationships & Business Partnerships by Focusing on Data.
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