Have you ever wondered why the life you envisioned when you were younger, the life that had all the dreams and hopes in the world, somehow turned into a stale, predictable, passionless or just “ok” life? Remember, that life you imagined, that promised to be a thrilling adventure full of electrifying victories and exhilarating experiences? That spicy, sexy and somewhat dangerous life…
At the moment our plane took off from Silicon Valley a couple of months ago to bring us to Central America (where, like every place we travel, Jan and I are having the time of our lives) I decided to call 10 very “successful”(whatever successful means) folks who millions of people admire and would indisputably love to model their lives after. I called (and when I couldn’t reach them, kept calling) and finally got a chance to ask one question. One question, that’s it. The answer to this question was YES. There was no single person who would give me another answer. EVERYBODY SAID “YES, ABSOLUTELY!”
One Questions To Which You Didn’t Answer “Yes” Yet
They all, without exception, referred to what I was asking about as the single, most defining factor that shaped their lives and led them to accomplish what they have in life.
If you are living a fully engaged, joyous life, bubbling with energy, you don’t have to continue reading this as you will learn nothing new and most probably find nothing transformational in this article.
BUT… If you feel that life passes you by and it’s just not the same any longer, it’s a drag, a struggle, a bore, a disappointment, you’re just going through the motions, then the question that I am talking about is the one you cannot ignore. And if I ask you the same question now and you cannot give a firm “YES” answer, then revisiting it might be the recipe that will turn the uninspired life you are living into a 365 days a year excitement marathon, whether it’s full of exciting “external” events or deep inner, truly transforming, spiritual experiences…
And hey, if you are one of those people who are satisfied being miserable, and derive joy from complaining and pointing fingers, then enjoy it. Enjoy it fully! You don’t need to bother about seeking change. Just bask in your mediocrity, and keep unconsciously creating suffering for those around you.
BUT, if you are not lying to yourself and truly want to get out of the complacency you’ve somehow found yourself in, if you truly want to move beyond this dispassionate, unromantic life, and are willing to fully commit to change, with no excuses, then keep reading and at the end of this article I want you to take action.
Promise yourself that. No matter what you take from this article, YOU WILL TAKE ACTION, whether it’s this or that, but you will take a moment to think about where you are at and what would it take for you to bridge the gap between where you are and where you can be.
And no, it’s not about “becoming”, it’s about fully living your potential as an alive being through whose veins the blood flows, to whom the energy of creation was gifted so we can fully engage with life, profoundly experience its gifts, express our bursting creativity and be led by our wildest imagination to unexplored playgrounds.
You will not need to become someone or something else – you are already THAT you want to become, you just need to find the source and the force to embody the most, the fullest, the biggest, the strongest, the wildest, freedom within you.
Can you allow yourself to be happy?
Can you stop punishing yourself for whatever it is you think you deserved to be punished? Can you let the past go? Can you drop all your walls and limitations and allow yourself to meet life right here and now, where it can be met, with full embrace, and wind blowing in your face? Yes, the wind of change…
But how, you ask?
It’s Time For You To Say “YES” too
So, what do those wealthy adventurers have in common?
What was the question which I was asking and to which everybody answered “Yes”?
It’s very simple. I asked:
YOU HAVE DONE AND EXPERIENCED SO MUCH, YOU ARE ADMIRED BY MANY, YOU HAVE MORE MONEY THAN YOU CAN EVER SPEND, YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN PEOPLE’S LIVES, YOU HAVE A HEALTHY FAMILY AND FULFILLING LOVE RELATIONSHIP… Would it be correct for me to assume that you give a credit for some of it to a few people that made difference in your life and that you would never accomplish it all on your own?
And the answers, as you guessed by now, was “Oh, ABSO-F..N-LUTELY!”. (That’s the answer I gave to Jan during our wedding ceremony, btw, when I was asked whether I am ready to take him as my husband. Oh, I am ready, aright! 🙂 Otherwise why would I propose to him in the first place? lol).
All of those successful people acknowledged that they owe much of what they have now (in material and non-material sense) to a few people who played critical roles in their lives – “teachers” whose priceless advise and insistence to convey their lessons made a tremendous impact.
Those “teachers” come in many shapes and forms. For some it’s a stranger they met who gave them advice that carried the transformation, for some – a modest school teacher, for some – a book, for some – their therapist, for some – a life or business coach, for many – their wife (or husband). To better understand what I am talking about you might want to read my article “Evolving Role of Masculine Feminine In Modern Institutions – Marriage & Business – Illustrated with Erotic Fantasy Art by Boris Vallejo & Sensual Pseudo-Realism of Dorian Cleavenger“. (Not safe for work 😉 ).
Interestingly, almost everybody pointed to their spouses as one of the most pivotal transforming forces in their lives. For so many it took decades to recognize it, to drop below their Ego and admit that their spouse can see their blind spots and knows them better than they know themselves, and that because they come from love they always carry great advice, which for the unwise, often, unfortunately remains unheard.
What Is In It For You And What Can You Do About It?
Of course, if meeting the right “teacher” is one of the defining factors of one’s success (whatever it means for you), and if you feel that you are “not there yet”, does it mean you are not lucky enough, or doomed to live an uninspired, unremarkable life?
If you didn’t turn your life around yet, does it mean you simply have not encountered the right “teacher” yet, and maybe never will?
You know the saying “when student is ready the teacher will come”? The question of course is, are you ready?
Remember, how many time someone offered to you genuine advice, out of care, and you disregarded it without even considering, because “you know better”? How many times has someone tried to love you, and you rejected it because it was not the way you imagined it or thought you wanted it?
Whether you are alone right not or married but not exactly satisfied with your family life, whether you never made a decent living and still scraping for pennies or made a fortune and then lost it all, have heath issues, are overweight, have addictions and unhealthy habits that you can’t let go… whatever the story of your life is, it’s just a manifestation of your “story”. All you need is to find the right mirror.
In our relationship, Jan & I commit to be mirrors for each other and live in a commitment to honesty and accountability. We have facilitated many transformations for individual clients and couples, doing the same for them – echoing their repressed and bottled-up desires, mirroring their unconscious behaviors, bringing subconscious patterns into the awareness – helping them discover the blind spots that prevent them from bridging the gap between where they are right now in life and their potentials – whether they’re as individuals, in their love life or business.
You need someone who will help you with the same. IF YOU COULD DO IT ALONE YOU WOULD HAVE BY NOW, isn’t it so?
It’s Time to Take Action!
Get On That Wild Horse!
Your next grand adventure is waiting.
Whether you take any actions after reading it or not – it’s your choice. Your life is yours. BUT I did ask you to promise yourself to take action and I ask you again. What those actions are is up to you. You decide.
Here are 4 actions I would invite you to take.
1) Go to Free coaching session page and signup for absolutely no charge and no strings attached coaching session. That’s your action #1.
2) Besides offering you a One-on-One live 30 minute coaching session with Jan (you might want to learn about him – he has accomplished A LOT in life and is an amazing teacher), we will also be sending you free videos and articles from both of us, which will help you to re-frame some of your understandings. So, action #2: Watch those videos and read those articles.
3) Read more articles on this blog, which is still very young – we launched it during this trip, to help not only individual clients, but also couples to excel in their relating and joint family business. We help couples to design the lifestyle that makes them feel fully connected with life, prosperous and fulfilled. We believe that the best job is working for yourself, especially when the business partner is your spouse – as long as you learn how to collaborate gracefully and consciously co-create life together. It’s a skill, and we offer what we have learned from 2 decades of running businesses, healing clients’ dysfunctions and facilitating transformational work – at first separately, and now together.
4) COMMIT. Happiness is a commitment to unlearning habits that lead to unhappiness. Being happy is a skill. So, COMMIT to acquiring new skills that transform your life into an exciting, many decades long experience of joy, happiness, love, prosperity and fulfillment. I keep repeating the word ‘commit” as it’s the biggest favor you can do for yourself and those you love.
If you think you have a better action plan, go for it. Only, if you had one, you would already be the happiest being alive, and not be reading this article, let’s face it. And if you still are, let’s stop the never-ending procrastination and let’s meet. Sign-up for your free introductory coaching session.
BTW, have you seen on our web banner a statement “Let’s solve ANY of your problems in 90 days, or money back”?
Do you know that we never had a single request for refund? Guess why?
SO, STOP WAITING. Claim your free introductory coaching session, let’s get you started with your new life.
